To me, ‘busy’ implies that the person is out of control of their life.
– Derek Sivers
My mom asks me how my week off for Thanksgiving was. A professional acquaintance asks me how business is going. A friend asks me what I’ve been up to since we last saw each other.
The default answer: BUSY.
New rule: busy is off limits.
It’s one word with many underlying messages built in – none of which I actually want to convey about my life. It’s bragging (busy is cool and I’m busier than thou). It’s complaining (I’m exhausted with all these things other people are making me do). It’s an admission of laziness (I don’t do the thinking required to decide which things are important so I do them all). And as the quote above articulates, it says I’m just reacting to life rather than being proactive and in control.