Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart…
– Steve Jobs
I’ve been meditating daily for most of this year. Today’s “sit” was one of the most monkey-brained experiences yet. I was jumping from worry to randomness to present to past to future and repeat and repeat. I spent 10 minutes essentially lost in thought.
“I never allow myself to have an opinion on anything that I don’t know the other side’s argument better than they do.”
— Charlie Munger
I read this quote a few years ago on the Farnam Street blog and it stuck with me. Don’t judge people, and certainly don’t argue with people, unless you understand the topic at play and both sides of the issue on a rational level. Put aside emotional reactions and biases against others’ actions and worldviews and gather the facts.
While this mindset is very useful, I’ve realized it has limited application in the real world because it stops short. Our goal shouldn’t be to simply win arguments.
Often there are dichotomies at the heart of the way we live our lives. Introversion vs. extroversion, input vs. output, stress vs. recovery. We tend to situate ourselves in our own little spot along each spectrum. If we’re not careful, we draw a box around our little spot – our comfort zone.
I’ve been working on identifying my comfort zones recently, as the posts above speak to. The zone I found this weekend lives along the spectrum of personal growth.