Lately I’ve been pondering whether or not I’ve ever shown up in the world as my true self. Real talk.
I’m finding solace in these quotes on authenticity, both via The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown:
Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you really need to do, in order to have what you want.
To be nobody-but-yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody but yourself―means to fight the hardest battle which any human can fight―and never stop fighting.
Brené writes that authenticity is a daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are. It means we work each day to:
- cultivate the courage to be imperfect, set boundaries, and allow ourselves to be vulnerable
- exercise compassion that comes from knowing we all struggle through this
- nurture the connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe we are worthy/enough