2018 Annual Review

I do this every year in my journal, but decided to share it here this year. Thanks to James Clear for the inspiration.

What Went Well

  • I moved to Denver! Sometimes I take this for granted. (The mind tends to move on rather quickly…) It was a big change and it took a ton of energy, but I did it and I’m sure glad I did. There were many times in the mountains this year that I would suddenly burst out, “I can’t believe I live here!”
  • I got divorced, and it was earth-shattering and heartbreaking and the hardest thing I’ve ever done. What made it positive is that it was also loving and amicable and free of any sort of fighting or animosity. We depart as friends, better off for having married and devoted a part of our lives to each other. Thank you, Kayli.
  • I hired a software engineer. He’s a rockstar and I’m excited about what we’re going to build together.
  • A few of my close friendships have flourished this year. Josh and I have weekly (kinda) “Naked and Afraid” video calls where we talk about life and being better humans. Sometimes we wear clothes. Ross and I started a Friday morning pre-work trail running routine in the summer that was a blast – when I could keep up with him. In the fall, I got to meet Ross and Carrie’s new baby Emma and Josh and Laura’s Jack.
  • I met many great new people as well: Allison, Erin, Meredith, Jonathan, Tristan, Garrison, Cassidy, Seth, Teresa, Juliana, Joe, Ross, Jess, Jared, and Megan. Shout out to all of you for taking me in.
  • In the spring, Ross and Josh and I went on a 6 mile run that I couldn’t even finish due to my knee pain. I felt so weak! After trying to fix it myself with a couple of books, I went to a physical therapist, Missy, who saved me. She then referred me to a personal trainer. This dynamic duo fixed it, along with a little hard work in the gym on my part, and that felt amazing.
  • I had many peak outdoor (James Peak, Crested Butte, Zirkel Circle, Strawberry Hot Springs, Joyful Journey Hot Springs, Winter Park, Backpacking with Molly) and concert (Elephant Revival, Miguel, Kendrick, STS9x2, Umphrey’s McGee, James Taylor, Galactic, Maggie Rogers, Wood Brothers, Khruangbin) experiences.

What Didn’t Go Well

  • One our employees left the company and it did not go well for him, me, or the company – lose, lose, lose. I don’t think I had a strong enough response to it – it should have had more of my attention. I could have taken responsibility for everything he was working on and used that awareness to make better decisions about what to do. Then, when I brought an outside consultant into the equation. They only made the problem worse.
  • My St. Louis friendships have sort of dropped off. A year ago, I was very close with Chris, Kenny, and Crystal. Now I’m not. I’d like to build all three of those friendships moving forward, despite the distance. I’m coming for you three so watch out.
  • I didn’t go to Europe. I kept telling myself and others I was going to Europe but I didn’t actually make it happen. I didn’t plan it. I didn’t update my passport. I just wasn’t organized enough and I was working too much. I don’t want to be like this moving forward.

What Did I Learn?

  • First, I learned a ton about myself: my PRINT motivators (to be knowledgeable and smart, safe and secure), management is not my thing, I love trail running, life without soccer isn’t so bad, caffeine is not really my thing.
  • “Who not how”: I have a habit of wanting to know everything, wanting to know how to do everything, and then getting excited about this learning, which makes me take on and commit to things that I shouldn’t, leading to overwhelm and getting spread too thin. Strategic Coach helped me realize this year that I need to to find a “who” not a “how’ – someone that is uniquely qualified to do what I need. Example: fixing my knee pain and Missy
  • Business ownership: I became a part-owner this year and that came with a ton of lessons, mostly from my partner but also from just having more responsibility. This biggest lesson: profit comes first. The second biggest lesson: always have the right people in the right roles.
  • The river of life: I’m seeing a new therapist and he taught me how to be present for the first time in my life. I’ll definitely write more about this.

Tactics

  • The best book I read this year was Simple Habits for Complex Times
  • The app that has changed my life most is quitting Facebook
  • I’m using the Waking Up app to meditate and highly recommend it